So by now I’m sure you’ve the Julie Henderson Russell Simmons new flavor of the week girlfriend had a bit of a temper tantrum targeted at black women called Bitch Get Your Own Man. If you haven’t read the whole thing you should, but for a snippet:
I have been spending “special time” with Russell for about 4 months and in that time I have learned some subtle things about some in the black community that have surprised me. I must say that while it has been a bit of a challenge for me, it has also been a wonderful learning experience. I realize that in this day of Obama and change that there is still a tremendous amount of poverty, suffering and pain in the black community, and for that I am deeply sorry. But, I have to say the angry responses to those realities are sometimes misdirected….Just for the record, I am nobody’s white b*tch, gold digger or fame chaser.
Finally, I just wanna say that Russell has been a great “special” friend and I’m sure as sh*t not giving him up cause some in America object to our friendship. I wanna close by saying, what Russell always says, Namaste. (That means the goddess in me recognizes the goddess in you)….Or, b*tch get your own man.
Instead or ripping her a new asshole as other blogers have done, I will say that I beleive her rant was directed at Katie Rost Russel’s chocolate ex who went hard at Julia the other day:
I’m at Russell’s apartment
and Julie Henderson just walked down stairs.
I’m not saying she was doing the walk of shame (but it was 12:15 pm) Let me be clear, I have no beef with Julie! We’ve just fallen at different times for the same man…
The first thing she said to me when she cascaded down the stairs was, “When are you leaving?”
I said, “in two weeks”
Her eyebrow rose in skeptic dismay.
I waited a looooong minute before telling her I wouldn’t be staying with Russell the whole time.
Ok, let’s move past all of that. I’m not a petty, competitive woman! (Yes I am) but I’m totally ok with the fact that my time with Russell was beautiful but brief. I am genuinely happy that our friendship has formed in the wake. I’m also happy that he has found someone else whose company he enjoys.
No, no, no people, I’m not going to hate on Julie Henderson! She’s extremely cute for a White girl. (I’m more partial to the ethnic look, but to each their own.) I’ve got to give it up to Julie for getting like 5000 hits on the Sports Illustrated pics and video (which are indeed smoking hot) when they were posted on Global Grind.
Yeah. Please read the rest…it gets better.
So maybe this no name white woman Julie just mis-directed her anger toward all black women/people as opposed to the chick who really pissed her off. So I’ll giver her a pass. This time. Or maybe the skinny bitch chick is just one bad marketing genius and has managed to get her name in the mouth of thousands of people who wouldn’t have heard of her otherwise.
Now on to Mathew McConaughey.
Seems like Mr. McConaughey was being interviewed by some mag and the asked him:
Any woman you can think of who might not be cover worthy, but whom you find attractive?
And his response:
Not so specifically, but yeah. And I see it more with black women, who get dressed up and they’re wearin’ everything to fit snug, and they’re walking the walk. And you’re like, Man, look at you go! Where did you get that? She might be a larger package, but boy, she sure understands how she’s wrapped.
Now I get Matt may have meant this as a compliment. And I also know he is a born and bred southern boy from Texas who probably had chocolate fantasies all of his life that he couldn’t fulfill until he went to more “liberal” Hollywood and had the money and autonomy to say a big “Fuck You” to anyone who would dare say anything about his love for chocolate women…HOWEVER…this shit ain’t a compliment.
He basically said black women were overweight wore too tight clothes, but still manged to be confident in their fatness and there was a part of him that could appreciate that though they were definitely NOT cover worthy.
There is nothing flattering about that.
Note to black women:
Just ’cause a white man might have a thing for chocolate women does not make him enlightened, anti-racist or down for the cause. It just means he likes and is attracted to chocolate women who may (but not always) represent a bit of forbidden fruit to him. So let’s stop pretending it means anything more than what it does and stop giving white men who love black women a pass when they say dumb and arguably racist/prejudice or at the very least insensitive bone headed things.