The Ultimate Relationship Deal Breaker
Sex in a relationship is a lot like the US at the UN – even if the rest of the relationship is great, if the sex is bad then there is no deal. I’ve heard many women argue that you can have a great relationship even if you’re not setting the bedroom on fire. I say those women must not know what good sex is really like.
There are a lot of things I may compromise on in a relationship: age, looks, height…but sex…that’s way too important an aspect of any relationship to settle for anything but the best. Some may argue that it’s possible to teach an old dog new tricks so to speak, but I don’t want to be in the teaching business. It’s one thing to teach you what pleases me, it’s another to have to teach you the basics.
I personally know of a few couples who are basically in sexless marriages and no, I’m not talking about couples who have been married for twenty+ years (not like that’s an excuse), but young recently married couples who are all perfectly healthy. It’s a situation I can’t even fathom and with money and sex being the number 1 and number 2 reasons for divorce in this country it’s not a situation I think those couples will be living for much longer.
Bad sex (or no sex) is just not an option. While no one is suggesting cheating is okay, if you’re not doing your part in the bedroom it is a surefire way to send someone out the door permanently or into someone else’s arm. Someone once asked me if everything else was perfect in a relationship and the sex was bad…would I stay? My response was simple: Hell No. In that scenario the relationship wouldn’t be perfect and we’d be better off as friends. If we ain’t lighting up the sheets, we can’t do much of anything else either.