Don’t Sleep With Him Yet
While sometimes our hormones can get the better of our common sense, it’s always best to try and keep a cool head when the object of our desire is readily available. While waiting may not always be what you want to do, here are 5 reasons why you shouldn’t sleep with him…yet.
1. You’re Drunk
A lot of things (and people) look better with a little alcohol in your system. And let’s be real, drunk sex can be great, but there’s a difference between being pleasantly tipsy and sloppy drunk. Too much alcohol also lowers the inhibitions so you may do things you wouldn’t normally do, like having sex without a condom which could leave you open to pregnancy and STD’s.
2. Morning After Regret
Casual sex isn’t for everybody. What seemed like a great idea the night before can look like a waking nightmare the next morning. You don’t want to have regrets about someone you’ve just had sex with, so maybe it’s just better to take your time and make sure he’s who you want to be naked with and that it is more than just a casual lay.
3. You’re the Rebound Girl
Yes you’re really into dude, but he’s just gotten out of a relationship. Sorry to say it, but you may be the rebound girl. Sure he seems really into you now, but give it a few months when he realizes what he really needs is some time to himself. If he’s just let one woman go (or was dumped himself) it’s best to just wait awhile and make sure he’s over the other woman before ya’ll hop in the sack.
4. You’re Not That Into Him
Sometimes folk have sex out of boredom, loneliness or a need to feel desired. While women often complain that women just want them for sex, if you’re sleeping with a guy for any of the above reasons than you’re using him and it doesn’t make it an better when the women are doing the using. So before you hop in the sack, make sure you’re doing it because you want him, not because you want to feel better about yourself.
If you don’t know him that well you probably haven’t’ had an STD conversation yet and you’re not familiar with his sexual history. While a condom will protect against many STI’s, there are ones (Herpes, HPV, Genital Lice) that are transmitted through skin to skin contact, so condoms offer limited protection. You don’t want to have a night of passion only to find out later that you left with something else as well.